The British Abroad

Olivia Colman is one of Britain's best and most talented actors and I could spend hours and hours talking about the roles that she has brought to life.

However, on this occasion, I want to talk about her Golden Globes acceptance speech.

Olivia won for her role as Queen Anne in The Favourite and highlighted something in her speech that I tell my clients about all the time - being real.

First of all, just watch her speech. Don't worry, I'll wait here...

Wasn't it great?

Did you find yourself smiling as you watched it? I know that I did - and it was because happiness radiated out of her like sunshine. Of course, you would expect that from someone who's just won a globally recognised award...

The other thing that would have made you smile, though, is how 'real' she is. She makes a speech like you or I would probably make such a speech. She's noticing people in the audience; people she recognises but probably doesn't know (yet!) - all the while telling us all how happy she is, how she flew on a private jet, how much she's eaten, how much she's enjoying herself...

It all comes out in a rush - but you don't miss a word of it. 

Olivia is being a real person - and that's something that you should be doing when you're hosting your podcast, speaking in front of a crowd, or being interviewed by the press.

Do not, do not, do not be someone else! Listeners, audiences and journalists can smell a fake a mile off - and it makes us want to turn away.

However you're putting yourself out there - podcasting, delivering a presentation, being interviewed, make sure that we get to see, hear and experience YOU.

Now, that doesn't mean you should come along and moan about the row you had with your partner, or the bill you've just had for your MOT - but you shouldn't try and suppress your natural personality. Letting that naturalness come out is what helps people bond with you, connect with you, relate to you.

The way to find out if you're being the 'real' you is to listen or watch yourself back. Better yet, get a friend to do it with you. Afterwards, ask them if they thought you were being genuine. If they say 'no' - then go back and find out just what it is that is preventing you from being you.

For some, it's all about the confidence. They find it easier to be like someone else when they're speaking in public or being interviewed. They've seen someone that they like speak - so they try and do some kind of homage or impersonation of them. It. Just. Doesn't. Work. Not really. You might get away with it once, but it's no long-term solution.

Spend time talking out loud. Don't worry, it's going to feel weird at first. Start by just talking. On anything. Your favourite movie, or holiday destination. Then, start recording and listening back to it - again, it's going to feel weird - but after a while you'll be able to hear the real you coming through, rather than some version of you that you'd like to convey.

If you'd like to talk more about how we can help you be more 'real, why not book a phone call for a chat? 

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